THe couples' coursE
This private workshop is for you and your partner only, at a time convenient to all. It can be either residential in France or non-residential in Winchester, England.
It lasts three days and takes the couple through three steps needed to restore intimacy, trust and empathy – vital ingredients in sustaining respect, kindness and love.
Unlike psychotherapy, it’s a structured programme. Each step is intentional. This contrasts significantly with the typical weekly hour which is often too little time to gain traction and build real and lasting change into the relationship.
The three steps are …
Letting go of past grievances.
Visioning a positive future and the tools to sustain it.
This is equally valuable whether the couple are committed to staying together, when one or both parties are ambivalent about their future status or, (maybe especially) when they are thinking seriously about separation.
What’s the intention?
To re-establish open hearted connection and trust
To learn tools which support you with communication and problem solving
To grow the relationship into something you both want it to be
I work with you both together and separately to get to the roots of your relationship dynamics.
DAY ONE is about saying both the things you've not been able to say AND being heard and understood on the things you've been saying repeatedly. Equally, it's about witnessing your partner.
DAY TWO is focused on letting go of past resentments. We focus on honouring the past and releasing it's hold on us. Ultimately it is a grieving ritual about saying goodbye to what no longer serves you and opening up to a positive future.
DAY THREE has a more flexible structure which creates the opportunity to vision the futures you both want as well as managing the overlaps and differences well. This third day also creates the space to focus on specifics that have arisen in the previous two.
Matthew works in a practical, tools-based way. Couples participating in this course will leave with:
Explicit agreements and commitments for positive change.
Tools to work with independently so the learning can be integrated into your lives.
Simple rituals for continued growth and satisfaction.
The course fee includes a two hour, follow up zoom call two months later. During this, Matthew will facilitate a review of what has gone well, what hasn’t and what would help improve things further.
Who is it for?
The course is open to any couple whether keen to stay together; unsure/ambivalent; committed to parting; or both differing.
It is tailored to fit your specific experience as a couple.
Dates: By arrangement. I am currently taking bookings for September 2022.
Price: £3000 or €3500
What if your partner is not keen?
Where one partner are unwilling or unavailable, I am available to support individuals with their relational lives in a one to one setting. There is much that can be done to support clear communication and building trust even on a unilateral basis.